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Home - AskJenna - Books - Career /Business - Financial Matters - Health/Fitness - Herbal Medicine - Horoscope - Marriage/Family - Motivational - Solutions - Wisdom - email How to Communicate Why don't we understand each other? We always go our separate way after arguing. She said,..... He said,..... & No Way Out! Yes there is a way out. You only need to get equipped with the knowledge. It is as easy as A, B, C's. The couples who know how to argue healthy have a lower chance of divorce. Things to Know at All Times / The Art of Arguing / The 10 Commandments Rule number One: - Argument is Healthy. Don't be afraid to argue. Don't think if you are arguing it means lack of love or respect. Argument is healthy as long as you don't hurt each others deep inside feeling. Respect each other's deep inside feeling and never let it down. Rule number Two: - Separate the Matters. Argue one issue at the time. If they are multiple, write it down & discuss them separately to get the best result. Rule number Three: - Leave other members of the family out of your own arguments. Examples: "you're just like your Mom" or "Dad", and "etc". No. No. Absolutely Forbidden. Rule number Four: - Always respect each others family members. We all have parents, aunts, uncles with different personalities that might not match with ours. Never disrespect the members of each others family even if you don't agree with their personality. ( You can discuss your concerns or dislikes about family members with each other like friends when not arguing. That is perfectly alright. Your partner will respect you for your differences, when you put it in a perfect way. "Honey I don't agree with such & such". "I respect them, but I don't like their such & such". Rule number Five: - Try to argue Constructively. When you argue at the time of anger it might makes the matter worst. Set up an appointment, think about the matter, write it down so you remember to stick to the main issue. Rule number Six: - Leave the kids out of it. Would you please, as much as possible. Children don't have the capacity and understanding like adults. Arguing in front of kids will leave a long term scarves. This will add another problem on top of other problems. Rule number Seven: - Knowing There is Always Problems. We are humans, we go through changes in life, we need to grow. Differences of opinion always will be there. You have to realize to respect each others point of view. Rule number Eight: - The Art of Listening. If you want to be heard you need to listen first. Mention to your partner, so it is clearly understandable. "I listen to you, You listen to me". "Thank You Love for listening" Rule number Nine: - Praise each other for the job well done. No matter it is an argument or what. Rule number Ten: - It is Okay to be Kids. We are still deep inside the little kids we were. Remember to see if your spouse was that another hurt child.
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