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- If we subconsciously think that a "life event" is threatening, then we have this internal/biochemical response. Our self-concepts determine and generate our subconscious thoughts or perceptions.
- Self-esteem was defined as our general opinion of ourselves as capable of coping with perceived threats. If we have "lower" (Lovelace says, "less accurate") self-concepts, we are more likely to perceive actual or imagined events in our lives (life events) as causing stress. To reduce stress, therefore, we (in part) need to increase the accuracy of our self-esteems and so our subconscious thoughts.
Some Results
- Research subjects (managers) agreed that their thoughts most often caused their stress at work. Other factors they believed created their job-related strain were: being understaffed, poor interpersonal communications with other workers and erratic workloads.
- Most respondents had similar attitudes about psychological stress; believing it was necessary and helpful, within limits. However, nearly one-third of the subjects thought it was not necessary at work. For this group, liking their jobs, liking themselves and caring about other people were sufficient to ensure their best job performance.
- From the perspective taken by this research, few managers showed insight into what caused their stress.
- Study participants self-reported more strain than their inventories suggested. The overall results of the self-tests indicated that they had a low-moderate level of psychological stress. Half the managers responding reported moderate or higher levels and 25 percent reported high stress.
- Overall, the self-esteem scale (self-assessment) used revealed that, on the surface (consciously), respondents felt "a little better than neutral" about themselves. The self-test also suggested that their self-affects were harmed more than they believed, below the surface.
- No environmental (work-related) factors considered were significantly related to the amount of harm to self-esteems. Worksite size, for example, did not affect their self-concepts.
- Statistically, only self-esteem was consistently and significantly related to subjects' levels of stress. When self-confidences were higher (more accurate), reported (job related) strain was reduced and vice versa.
- Might it be that higher levels of "work-related stress" hurt or negatively influenced the subjects' self-concepts? The study's author (Lovelace) reported that was not the case. Previous research he cited stated that when investigating the causal relationship between two variables (in this case, stress and self-esteem) the one that's more stable or static changes the other. Self-concept is, by far, the more stable variable.
* We wrote this e-article using a rough draft of the journal article Dr. Lovelace wrote for, and was published by, Clinical Laboratory Management Association Review, 1993.
By learning to love yourself, built up your self-esteem, and claim full independence.
The first step is to respect yourself. No matter what other people think of you or thought about you.
You must believe in yourself. Put aside other people's opinion of you. Never assume anything.
Create a positive reality. Use your mind eliminate negatives and to concentrate on positive side of your life.
You must learn not to be adversely get affected by criticism. Do not let criticism affect the part of you that respects you.
When you respect yourself, when you believe in yourself, when you know you are in the right track of doing good, then you can stand up to the whole negativity that might be brought to you from the outside sources.
When you feel dowdy, no-good, unsuccessful, fat, ugly, or anything negative, it is easy for the slightest everyday mishap to get reinforced. Get rid of this negative habit cycle thinking. Practice and learn the good habit of loving, respecting yourself, by saying; "I am okay", "I am all right", "I am a good person", "I am a nice person", "I am a person who really counts".
Do the things that makes you really count. Find things that make you and others happy.
Have a life plan. Create one, start with your dream, then expand in it, and do research on how to get where you want to be.
You must start feeling positive, becoming positive, more self-aware, and more interested in the world around you.
Never hold yourself back express your thoughts and feelings. Everyone is different, everyone might have an opinion, respect theirs as you respect yours.
Pamper yourself, spoil yourself, make yourself feel good about yourself. If you don't do it, no one else will do it for you. Loving yourself is the first step to being able to love other people.
Take control of your life, your decision making, and your independence.
If your circumstances do not allow you to be totally independent, you still can achieve a certain amount of independence. Manage to have at least one or two hours a day to spend with yourself, your dreams, pampering, and making plans.
Becoming independent is the most rewarding, positive thing a woman can do to take control of her life.
Make yourself the center of your life, fully love and respect yourself. Then the success and happiness of your true love will expand to reach your family and friends.
You will reach your highest dream and happiness here and now.
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